These days blame, specifically blaming others for our “misfortunes”, seems to be a natural and convenient approach to life. I am not sure if there is a correlation with the epidemic of blame and the modern day narcissism of social media but golly geez, when did people become so self-entitled that they believe it is everyone else’s responsibility to make their life happy, fulfilled, easy and perfect.
Some people when faced with “inconveniences” resulting in their life not being delivered on a silver platter look at the actions of others as a direct personal affront to them. They blame others for their “inconveniences”. Here are some recent “blame” statements I have heard:
- My entire team is incompetent! I have to do all the work because of their inadequacies. (This was stated by a manager who recruited those people and is responsible for their training).
- I wanted a quick coffee and the lady ahead of me in the drive-thru ordered too much food. I had to wait more than 3mins…she ruined my day! She is selfish.
- My husband is such a moron, if he would just learn how to load the dishwasher my way we would not have to fight every night.
Blame is a self-created black cloud that rains down misery, frustration, anger and disappointment. Blaming others is just another way of not taking accountability for your own life. I mean, hey, taking accountability is hard, who wants that responsibility? YOU SHOULD!
The reality is this; you are where you are in life because of your choices, your actions and your attitude. If you are happy in your life, pat yourself on the back, you have created the life you wanted.
If you are not happy with where you are in life…stop blaming others and start looking deep into the mirror. Take responsibility for your life and make new choices, take new actions and create new attitudes and watch your world change for the better.
People spend so much time reacting to others that they forget how they want to act (the way that honours their true self). If people focused more on how they are being vs. how others are, they would have a greater influence and impact over their outcome. And chances are they will achieve what they are looking for.
How do you want to go through life…blaming others or taking accountability?